Something To Be PROUD OF (Life)
Jonathan's Gifts To The World ~ LIFE
One Word ...
For those who personally knew Jonathan, what is the first word that comes to mind? What is the second word. . . third word? How did he change your life . . . and how did his death do so as well?
Jonathan was one strange dude! If you ever met his dad and siblings they were strange as well. The only one who seems a bit normal, might be his mom ... but remember she gave birth and home schooled him from K to 12th grade, so you know he must have gotten some of the strangeness from his mom. :-)
The Gift Of Jon's Heart In Music
What Do You Hear?
When you listen to the lyrics of the song Jonathan wrote, what do you hear? How does that change your life forever? Jonathan had a shirt which said ... "You are just jealous that the voices don't talk to you." He loved to be the center of attention, make people laugh and was always seeking to have fun. For those who were closest to him, when he wasn't in the spotlight, he had a most serious introspective and deep side to him that seemed like he really did see things that others did not.
What I Hear ...
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How It Will Change My Life Forever ...
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Memories
Mark Wittig, shares that there are three deaths each of us will go through. The first death is our physical death. On June 17th, 2020 Jonathan experienced his first death. The second death is when those who are closest to us stop talking about us and/or remembering our memories. We're guessing that this will never happen. The third death is when our memories die from those who did not know us. The memories of Jonathan can enrich the lives of total strangers ... if those who are closest to Jonathan share his memories and those memories are so powerful that those strangers share those memories in a life changing way.
What Are Your Memories?
In Jonathan's early teens he learned to take personal ownership of his own choices.
Do the amazing memories you have with Jonathan, or really any loved one who is present or absent from you, create pain? Is that a good pain or bad pain? Good pain is the amazing fond memories we have that hurt so much because we miss the loved one so very much! That pain that is good pain.
If we have guilt or hurt, it's often because we don't look at the guilt or hurt in a good way. Jonathan was not perfect and he didn't expect those around him to be either. Learn to take the guilt and/or hurt and invest that lesson into someone else. Jonathan can help us all live without regret, bad guilt and/or negative pain.
Do we have any bad guilt / anxiety or just good guilt anxiety with Jonathan's death and/or in any other relationship we have had or have now?
Good guilt / anxiety is guilt / anxiety that we have and should have and bad guilt / anxiety is guilt / anxiety that we have but we shouldn't have.
How do we know the difference? Good guilt / anxiety help us to change the present and the future by taking personal ownership of choices we made. Bad guilt / anxiety is blaming someone else for choices that we or others have made. Much more will be covered in the section on "Death" and "Healing" and "Awakening."
My Memories ...
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Guilt, shame, hurt and/or pain ...
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How do we turn it into good?
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Jonathan's Death
Most people ... normal people ... want to focus on "just the good things" in someone's life, just the happy things. Most people ... it seemed had a hard time getting Jonathan to really open up about himself and his feelings, his hurts and his pain. One of his closest friends shared . . . "When Jonathan drank, it's like it awakened the pain within him." If you choose to visit "Jonathan's Death" page, WARNING, it's not sugar coated, it's tough . . . like Jonathan was as a human being, but very sensitive as a spiritual being.
Most people consider a death of a young person to be very sad ... which is one way to think about it, but maybe thinking differently through the Quantum Thinking we can see death as a wonderful gift to all those who are still human + spiritual beings. The physical death of someone can be a wonderful experience if we make a choice to embrace their life in an honest and truthful way and set our minds i.e. internalize what we can learn which will "Something To Be Proud Of."
Healing
From a young boy Jonathan's spirit, his heart, mind and soul were ... can we say troubled ... or maybe restless is a better word ... or maybe it's both words and many more words. Jonathan battled depression, suicidal thoughts which seems to have started at a very young age. Those who loved Jonathan the most and for the longest sought to find help for him ... some of which Jonathan tried and some of which he seemed to feel that he could handle on his own. Obviously ... he was wrong ... as were a lot of people around him.
When a bone is broken, if it's "set right" that bone will heal to be stronger than before it was broken. Setting the bone right is painful ... in the short term ... but will help us to "celebrate life" in a way that is far better after the death than before. Healing is not a one time event ... or a destination ... but a journey of choices that we make each and every day.
AWAKENING
"One thing I love about death is it seems to AWAKEN people." When Jonathan's grandparents died Jonathan's dad shared these words. When someone dies as young as Jonathan, in the manner he died ... it seems impossible to "accept" his death. It's almost like there is a black hole in the universe which draws people in to find out "Why" it happened . . . "How" it happened and how to prevent it from happening to other amazingly gifted individuals which seem to have so much of life to live.
Jonathan was raised in a very devout Christian home and was surrounded by Christian grandparents, family and friends. An yet ... he had some very different views of God than most Christians. He could connect with anyone who believed in anything and he was curious about their thoughts.
In the "AWAKENING" area, if you are a Christian, you may be offended, if that is your default when challenged. If you are of another religion or an atheist you may find some things which resonate with you and other things which challenge you. Jonathan seemed to have the ability to be a disruptor of sorts and would ask questions which could challenge the most educated and experienced.