Friendship

Backstage Podcasts

1-1: Backstage Passes

So ... it's crazy ... isn't it ... how much Mark ... and Nora when she joins Mark on the spontaneous podcasts. Mark shares that it can take 100 or even 1,000+ podcasts to get a great one. What's so interesting is that there are some real hidden gems in these backstage podcasts.

Curious?

Mark loves to hear feedback on everything he writes, is written about him, and/or podcasts he has done.
Email mboersma5@gmail.com with your thoughts, questions, and insights from what you observed.
There's a cool process Mark discovered which helps us to internalize ... gain the most value from everything. It's called Manage Up & Out. When we learn how to internalize things quickly, we learn more, earn more, and help more people in less time.  
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1-2: Do Friends Use You?

What's the most interesting conversation to have with our friends? Is to ask your friends this question? Will you ask your friends this question? Most likely you will not. Why not?

Curious?

Is it because you are fearful of exposing to your friends "The True You"? Don't worry, they already know this about you, and they accept you ... because they are using you, just like you are using them.
If you haven't read the famous white paper Wii-FM ~ click here ~ do so right now! 
What's fascinating is to understand/accept this concept upfront with people and learn how to not hurt others and/or get hurt yourself. 

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Audio Podcast in Progress
Often, the amiable personality is the one who hurts the most people and gets hurt the most ... but ... no worries, everyone can play the role of taking advantage of others.

What's maybe the biggest lesson to be learned here? Maybe ... it's to be SELF AWARE and to realize that if you are "The Taker," it's important to know that. To be "The Taker" and not be aware of it is both sad and dangerous. The second thing to realize is that ... with a few people ... or maybe it's many people ... but when you exit someone's life ... that friend that cares more about you than they do the friendship especially ... well ... trust us ... what you've gotten ... from that person is FAR FAR FAR less than what they have to give.

SEE ... those who are, what we call MASSIVE GIVERS ... have learned and will give you only a small part of what they have to give ... to test your heart.
Video Podcast in Progress

1-3: Loyalty --- Work ~ Sacrifice ~ Risk

This is a most interesting podcast!!! Mark goes back into memories / experiences when he was in his 20s and building up a business / employees / team members. Mark thinks of all the people he's developed over the years ... so many people and the conversations he's had with them ... the "agreements" and how ... not one person has ever lived up to what Mark shared with them.

Curious?

I'm going to invest a lot into you ... and my expectation is that you would bring someone on to replace you, so I would never have to train someone again like I have you. And ... NOT ONE person has ever done that. Mark laughs when young men ... act like boys and say, "Well, it didn't work ... So why try?" ... AND/OR ... Someone screwed me ... mistreated me.
Mark is known for his tact, so he doesn't say what he's thinking 99% of the time, and it's funny that even the 1% that he does share, people get offended by that.  
How do you help both young men and young women to realize and steward what they have been given?
Audio Podcast
What young and old, it seems ... don't realize how much they screw others and how much of life ... and maybe ... who knows ... eternity ... is missed out on due to a lack of working to discover one's life vision, through the passion circle ... AND ... then comes the hard WORK, the great SACRIFICE and taking the massive RISKS which seems to be required to achieve what one has been put on this planet for.
It's no wonder that older men don't invest in younger men or women. 
Video Podcast

1-4: Frequencies and Being A Level 4 Friend To Ourselves

Do you ever feel taken advantage of? Do you ever feel that you give FAR FAR FAR more to others than they ever do to you? What does our frequency have to do with our friendships?

Curious?

GingerAnne brought up on a Friday podcast ... "How do I become a Level 4 Friend to myself?" which really got Mark to thinking ... a lot. So ... when you go through this podcast, work to improve your empathy muscles.
Based on Mark's voice and body language, what do you feel Mark is feeling? Does it seem like Mark is frustrated? Do you get the sense that "He's just giving up." ... or ... maybe resolved to ... acceptance of certain things?
One thing that he didn't cover is the cumulative effect of many low-frequency people around you and what that can do to you. 
Audio Podcast
If you are either lazy or weak in your emotional / mental / frequency relational muscles, it's probably best for you NOT to go through this podcast. Hmmm ... well ... if you were lazy / weak and/or a low frequency and wanted to know how it felt to be around you ... then ... it would be good for you to watch this podcast and share it with others you know.  
Video Podcast

1-5a: Do you care about your spouse's feelings? - Part 1

   Do you think your wife cares and do you want her to care about your feelings?

Seriously?

Patrick and Mark discuss feelings and how they've learned not to share their feelings with their wife. When men share their feelings with women, women tend to make it all about themselves. Women seem not to care about men's feelings, just as important as their own feelings are. Why is that? Women think that men should just be tough and macho beings, and seem not to have feelings. But men are human, so they therefore have feelings, but feel they have to just "suck it up" to keep women happy.
Audio Podcast
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Video Podcast

1-5b: Do you care about your spouse's feelings? - Part 2

     Are you thankful and grateful to your spouse for what they do or have done or do you just come to expect it?

Questions?

Mark and Patrick talk about how to be thankful and grateful for the things your spouse does. Don't just expect your spouse to do these things if you don't. When you are thankful, your spouse has no problem doing what is asked of them.
Also, the older women need to teachthe  younger women how this is done. Women need to appreciate the things their husbands will do for them if they are grateful. Men will do anything for their wives if the women appreciate them and teach their kids to do the same.
Audio Podcast
Driver personality seems to be the most appreciative in both men and women of the things their spouses do. How do we change that?
Video Podcast

1-6: How Many Level 4 Friends Can You Have?

Can you have a deep friendship if you don't heal and the fear of losing someone keeps you holding back?

Wondering?

Do people choose to be hurt? How can we learn to self heal and not depend on others around us to respond a certain way because of past pain in our life? Mark and Nora have been pretty open about their friendship and this podcast is no different. If you like real, raw, behind-the-scenes conversations about friendship, healing, and the power of personal choice, you'll want to listen to this one.

Audio Podcast
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1-7: Do you shut down when someone criticizes you?

Or can you pause, get curious, and learn from it?

Seriously?

In this episode, the group explores black and white thinking and why feedback feels like a personal attack. They talk about level four friendships, the kind that risk honesty for growth, and why most people avoid them. The conversation challenges the idea that criticism defines who you are and invites a better question: what part of this might be true, and what can I do with it?
If you’ve ever struggled with defensiveness, growth, or real connection, this one is worth hearing.
Audio Podcast
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Video Podcast

1-8: When Someone Says “You Disrespected Me”… What Do They Really Mean?

Ever notice how people claim disrespect but can’t give a single example?

Seriously?

In this episode, Mark, Nora, and the group dive into what respect really is, how it gets weaponized, and why manipulation often hides behind vague accusations. From family conflict to church settings to friendships, this conversation pulls no punches.
Why do people avoid specifics?
Why do bullies rely on feelings instead of facts?
And what happens when someone finally calls it out?
There’s strong language.
There are strong opinions.
There’s a clear line drawn around protecting women, calling out bad behavior, and refusing to play games.
Audio Podcast
This episode isn’t about being nice.
It’s about being honest.

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Fair warning: this one might change how you see “respect” forever.
Video Podcast

1-9: Think you’re a good listener?
Most people are wrong.

In this Voices of Integrity coaching session, one simple question exposes why teams stay stuck, meetings drag on, and overwhelm keeps winning.

Mark breaks down:

• Why people rate themselves high but still miss critical details
• The listening mistake that costs time, money, and momentum
• Why overwhelm isn’t the real problem, but how your brain responds to it
• The mental shift that helps high performers move faster under pressure

This isn’t theory.
This is real people, real deadlines, and real coaching in action.
Audio Podcast
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Fair warning: this episode may permanently change how you think about listening and overwhelm.
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